It Was Good While It Lasted

Due to reasons beyond her control, my mommy BFF has gone back to work. I am sad.

We met almost a year ago at our Prenatal Class. Both of us opted to do a weekend crash course, because we knew we'd be tempted to skip classes if we signed up for a weekly series. Both of us are of Asian descent, married to Caucasian men. Both of us pulled up in a Jetta, theirs black, ours white. Both of us due at the end of December.

She said something, about being at the Hospital for a check up and the room smelt like ass. I knew we would be friends.

The initial email I sent her, after I gave birth to Eloise, and was confined to my new life as a mother, went something like, "How are you? I'm okay. We should go for a walk when the weather gets nicer." Our initial meeting a month later went something like, "Oh My Fuckin' God. I hate my life! You too! Thank God I'm not alone!"

We've been going out to lunch, shopping with screaming babies, and gossiping about perfect moms ever since.

I would not have made it through this year without her. Ladies, if you're going to get pregnant, make sure you find a friend, someone who will share advice with you, share laughs with you, and half a litre of wine at lunch.

Comments

PattyG said…
I love your stories, Kim!!! I thought you were one of a kind, I can't believe there are two of you out ther. God help us all.
November 5, 2009 at 12:19 PM
Momisodes said…
I'm so glad you found someone with so much in common through this journey. It can make a world of difference. Now that I'm doing this again, I hope to make a friend like you have :)
November 24, 2009 at 11:54 AM
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